The body changes so quickly that the poor child does not have time to get used to himself and accept himself. However, if it does not change so quickly (slower than that of peers), then this is an even greater tragedy …
Acne pops up in the most inappropriate places, and hair, on the contrary, does not grow in suitable places. The child does not hear your consolations, does not believe in the maxims of the format “this too shall pass”. And if you don’t understand his spiritual throwings with a running start, then helping him cope with defects in appearance is quite within his power.
The main thing here is to decide for yourself when you should wait, and when you need to take urgent and effective measures.
Even if objectively your child is beautiful, he will still find something to complain about: he is fat (fat), clumsy, his nose is not thin enough, his legs are not slender enough, his hair is not pink enough … The growing body looks for and finds flaws in itself. And, of course, you will be to blame in the first place: you gave birth to a freak, poorly cared for, fed the wrong people, don’t give money for piercings and coloring in a pink pony, and generally don’t love much, otherwise at least they tried to save him. And if he has objective deviations from the ideal (most often we are talking about acne), then your house is filled with gloomy silence or bitter lamentations in the mornings and evenings.
Such considerations, of course, are comforting for parents (especially if you have already been convinced by your own experience that the doctor is right), but completely meaningless from the point of view of a teenager. What joy does he have from the fact that acne will disappear in two years? At his age, two years is an eternity that you can not survive (with such and such a face!). He seeks to get rid of blackheads and pimples here and now. Literally. And “here” often means “by the cloudy mirror in the school toilet,” and “now” does not imply a delay even for washing hands.
Therefore, you should seize the initiative: before the suffering of the young Werther reaches its climax, take adequate measures:
- Light. Comedones and up to five pustules (inflammatory elements of the rash).
- Medium. Comedones and pustules up to 30 pieces in approximately equal proportions.
- Complex. Comedones all over the face, inflammatory elements join them (15-20).
- heavy. The entire face, neck, as well as the back and chest area are subject to the inflammatory process.
At the initial stage, it is enough to choose medical cosmetics. For example, for oily skin, you can use cosmetics containing lactic, salicylic, azelaic acids, zinc, and sulfur. These components will help cleanse and moisturize the skin.
From the second stage, you should no longer rely on your own strength. As a rule, the doctor prescribes serious drugs from the pharmacy, depending on the age of the patient and the stage of the disease. In severe inflammatory acne, antibiotics are needed – several short courses.
Some preparations containing retinol can cause dryness and thinning of the skin. Therefore, even at difficult stages, it is necessary to moisturize and cleanse the skin with the help of cosmetics. Teenage acne needs to be dealt with comprehensively. You will need the help of not only a dermatologist, but also an endocrinologist, and a gynecologist (if we are talking about a girl), and, possibly, a psychologist.
And most importantly, the child must see that you take his problem seriously. And do not just support him in the fight, but are ready to lead it, like an experienced commander.
In the end, finding and paying for a doctor and medicine is really up to the parents.
Children can complex about their height and weight. And if you still somehow can regulate the weight, then with growth it is more difficult. It remains only to cite yourself as an example (“I was little all my life – for this your father fell in love with me”) or the great and famous: shorties Napoleon and Danny de Vito or tall Uma Thurman and Maria Sharapova …
But from the age of 13, signs of “adulthood” become the main topic of teenage anxiety. Girls critically evaluate their breasts, boys jealously compare the mustaches that have emerged in themselves and those of their peers. And here parents need to be very careful, even vigilant.
It is worth sounding the alarm if by the age of 15 a teenager has not shown signs of sexual development – hair growth (hair on the pubis, armpits, in boys – on the face), and for girls also menstruation. It is this, and not the lack of breasts in girls and mustaches in boys, that should really be of concern. If puberty is not observed by the specified age, this may be a sign of pathology. Doctors can diagnose the cause and treat the child, usually with hormone therapy.
The reasons for the delay in sexual development can be very different, but they are mainly associated with genetic or endocrine disorders. Tumors of the pituitary or adrenal glands can also interfere with normal sexual development. So in such cases, your parental sympathy will not be enough.
Genetic problems are by far the most complex, sometimes impossible to completely solve. For example, a girl may have underdeveloped ovaries and uterus, which will prevent her from having children in the future. In this case, hormone replacement therapy can be carried out so that the girl looks puberty and can live a more or less normal healthy life. And breast size is in most cases just an individual feature.
The same way, by the way, as the density of mustaches and beards in young men.
If by the age of 15 a boy has no hair not only on his face, but also on his body – in the armpits and in the groin – then it can be assumed that the level of sex hormones has not increased.
This indicates a developmental delay, it is necessary to consult a doctor. In many cases, stimulation of the testicles helps kickstart the process and allow the person to continue living a normal life. It is important to pay attention not only to body hair, but also the growth of the testicles, the penis to an important milestone – 15 years. If a teenage boy has already grown hair in the groin, but for some reason there is no hair on his face, then this most often means low sensitivity of testosterone receptors on the face and is not a pathology.
It is best at the age of 13 – long before you have doubts and suspicions – to introduce a girl to a gynecologist, a boy to a urologist, and explain that these doctors should be visited annually.
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